Lust

I was reading an article today about a band I like. In it it was examining the many looks of the bassest's facial hair. It was a funny little article written by "super fans" and mostly just made me giggle. As they wrote and rated his hair, they gave his long straggly "hobo" look a point just for his reasoning behind having it.
He didn't want to be hit on. Their exact words were Lust = Bad.

It made me laugh b/c in college one of the hot Christian guys went through a stage of having long hair and not shaving b/c he didn't want to girls to like him. Which if you are a Christian female when you hear that reasoning, he automatically becomes more attractive then you first thought. And even if you didn't think he was attractive at all he is now the hottest guy alive.

Same thing happens to me when I hear a guy pray, like a good genuine, you can hear his love of God in his voice prayer. 20 times more attractive to me.

All of this is a horrible double edged sword.
It is so great that there are men out there that care about that sort of thing. That care about not wanting to be a stumbling block for their sisters. Unfortunately all of their good intentions go out the window since most of the time the guys doing this are already attractive and/or have been known to have great personalities.
So guys if you want to be awesome come into the situation looking like a hobo and stay that way until no one could possibly be attracted to you. Don't come in looking hot, then decide you don't like the attention so you get all nasty. Move to a new town, start a new church and be nasty and stay nasty.
2) (I know there was no 1 but whatev) Don't TELL people, ANYONE especially a girl, that that is what you are doing. That is like giving $100 to a charity and then telling everyone you just gave $100 to a charity. Bad example but I can't think of a better one right now.

I also think the whole situation is rather funny (weird, interesting, etc) bc no girl thinks that. No girl thinks I will look like a slob so no man will lust after me. I will admit that I do make a conscience effort when I go out to Christian events (which not sure why it makes a dif but oh well) to be careful about the amount of cleavage I show (aka NONE or as much as I can not have) and how tight my clothes are, etc. I also don't overly try with hair or makeup. I know I am so awesome, I just did #2 which I told guys not to do. HAHA awesome me.

I am totally rambling today bc I have so many thoughts surrounding this that lead to other thoughts about this.

I have purposefully not followed a guy on Twitter, or befriended him on Facebook (cuz that is sooo my generation and as much as I hate it, I embrace it as well) bc I have a major crush on him. I am most def lusting after him. But the fact that I haven't followed him hasn't stopped me from swinging by his pages now and then and just continuing to lust after him. I know that part of me goes to his page and such in hopes that I will see something that makes him not to attractive anymore, like back hair :), or hunting, or not liking girls. I can't really think of anything. OH he has a girlfriend that would help . But none of that has happened yet and I can't stop crushing on him. I feel better saying I have a crush on him then I am lusting after him, even though I feel it is more of that latter than the former.

How do you differentiate between the two?